For as long as I can remember I’ve always let fear stop me from doing things (both personally and business wise). So, over the years I’ve built up a nice little ‘box’ and that’s where I’ve been living. It’s known as my comfort zone. Living within the confines of those four ‘walls’ has been pretty sad and boring. Life has been passing by in the blink of an eye and I’ve been sitting on the sidelines watching instead of getting in there and playing…until recently.
As I do at the end of every year, I decided that 2014 was going to be the year I stopped sitting on the sidelines. It was going to be the year I broke down those 4 comfort zone walls. It was going to be my year to make changes in my life – even if others didn’t agree with them (that’s a hard one cause I’m a people pleaser!).
I’d like to say I started taking action and doing the things I wanted (stepping out of my comfort zone, etc) to as soon as January 1, 2014 hit. But I didn’t. Nothing changed…because I didn’t make any changes. Then all of a sudden a huge
personal set back stepping stone in my life happened (I made choices that caused the consequences) and while it wasn’t a good thing, it caused me to start taking action on things (hence the reason I crossed out set back and wrote stepping stone).
Within a month (little over a month) of that happening, I had packed my 3 bedroom, 1 ½ bathroom house and was moving 4 hours South into 1 bedroom – literally 1 bedroom (I’m renting a room from someone). It was a hard decision – one I had to talk about with my son over and over to make sure he was okay with mom being 4 hours away (he lives full-time with his dad/step mom & has for the last 3 years). But even he agreed, this move needed to happen.
Exposure & Profit Live Event
Then after getting settled in, about a month later I attended Kelly McCausey’s Exposure & Profit event in Toronto Canada (click here to read about how it rocked my world) and it was literally like a fire was lit under my rump during those couple days! All of a sudden I came home on fire, stepping out of my comfort zone and taking massive action. I immediately joined Toast Masters (one of my biggest fears is public speaking!). Talk about killing two birds with one stone – getting out of my comfort zone and facing the public speaking fear! Actually three – I have a ‘fear’ of being on video (even though I want to do more of it in my biz) and after that first Toastmaster’s meeting I made a video too! 😉
Biz Changes Too
Then of course all the personal changes carried over into my business/online life too. While it was hard to see some clients go, it was time. It was more than time actually. We had outgrown each other – I wasn’t enjoying the projects I was doing anymore and I began to resent the work. Not a good feeling. And as soon as those clients and I went our separate ways, doors immediately began opening for new business relationships. (Kind of funny how that works isn’t it?)
So, all that to say that it may have taken several months into 2014 for me to get that fire lit under my behind and to start working on things, I have definitely taken massive action and started overcoming letting fear/the comfort of my comfort zone hold me back. I’d be lying if I said it was all smooth sailing since stepping out of my comfort zone and starting to take action. It hasn’t been. In fact, it’s crazy how quickly and easily it is to fall back into old ways – skipping a couple Toast Masters meetings because I was scared (I have to do my first speech and I’m so petrified it’s not funny!)
But…it’s just a matter of continuing to push through the fear, keep stepping out of the comfort zone and just keep taking action and moving forward! Because as the image above says:
“You can suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way you are.” -Joyce Meyer
I would rather suffer the pain of change than continue to remain the way I was/am! I’m excited to see how the remainder of 2014 will play out – both personally and business wise. And one of the tools that helps keep me moving forward is Message in a Bottle. It’s full of inspiration and motivation every month from Beachpreneurs founders Nicole Dean and Kelly McCausey and it’s only $5.00! I highly recommend it.
Now it’s your turn – please leave a comment below and share a difficulty you’ve overcome this year.